If there is one thing that I learned from life is that people are not capable in changing their behavior and personalities. A person's behavior and personality is a sum up of all what they have been through and thought throughout their childhood years. And one little tweak, one little chit-chat, one little suggestion, or one little order will never be able to change the personality wholly. Well maybe, some little adjustments can actually be made, but the question now is: are those small adjustments enough?
People often say that 'there is no such thing as a perfect partner. You have to work for it, you both should.' which kind of come to the conclusion that in order to have a 'perfect' and healthy relationship, both of the partner should adjust themselves to their significant other. But the thing is, no matter how hard each individual tries, the 'adjustments' and changes will never be perfect. So in the end of the day, it is a matter of acceptance. Will you accept those kind of behavior for the rest of your life? Are you ready to be encountered with those habits everyday? Will you be willing to hold on and stick with those personalities forever?
Some people ended up forcing themselves to say yes, I do, when in fact they really don't. Or maybe, at that moment they just didn't realize that deep down, they actually can't. This is why we have to take some time to be with ourselves, have a deep conversation with our heart and just reminisce all the thing that we have been through. Don't have your heart take sides, just listen to them. It was never a matter of right or wrong, it's just about compatibility.
If you finally realize that it is a no, even though it is really really hard to accept, just let go. Because everybody deserves a chance to find their true love, their soulmate. And if you block one's way, even (especially) if it is your own way, then someone, somewhere, must be falling apart.
"I can control my destiny, but not my fate. Destiny means there are opportunities to turn right or left, but fate is a one-way street. I believe we all have the choice as to whether we fulfil our destiny, but our fate is sealed." -Paulo Coelho
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